So, not ONLY did it take me about half an hour to “man up” and approach the cafe so I could meekly ask Jenn if she got the email about being a reference. And not ONLY did I ask really awkwardly and hesitantly. But she DIDN’T EVEN RECIEVE THE EMAIL and shrugged it off ‘cause it’s not a big deal anyway.
So here’s a picture of an embarrassed raccoon that looks to be constructing an evil plot to embarrass you too.
Can we please stop making fun of people who are over 20 and are still virgins
Can we please stop making fun of people who are not interested in sex/are repulsed by sex
Can we please stop making fun of people who aren’t interested in a sexual or romantic relationship
So being alive while being black = weapon
The invisibility of privilege means that many men, like many white people, become defensive and angry when confronted with the statistical realities or the human consequences of racism or sexism. Because our privilege is invisible, we may become defensive. Hey, we may even feel like victims ourselves. Invisibility "creates a neurotic oscillation between a sense of entitlement and a sense of unearned privilege," as journalist Edward Ball put it, having recently explored his own family’s history as one of the largest slave-owning families in South Carolina.
The continued invisibility of masculinity also means that the gendered standards that are held up as the norm appear to us to be gender-neutral. The illusion of gender neutrality has serious consequences for both women and men. It means that men can maintain the fiction that they are being measured by “objective” standards; for women, it means that they are being judged by someone else’s yardstick.
I’m also a killer. I’ve killed a lot, and if I need to I’ll kill a whole bunch more. If you don’t want to get killed, don’t show up in front of me.
The system was not designed for us to be successful in the first place. It was designed to marginalize Black and Brown bodies. The oppressors who created the system are never going to give up their power. Even when there are laws that are supposed to protect us from discrimination by public services such as the police, trans women are profiled and targeted in LGBT ‘safe havens’ such as Greenwich Village and Hell’s Kitchen. Things that are considered items of safety, like condoms, are used to accuse trans women of being sex workers. Until we dismantle this broken system, I don’t see any real change happening.